I know many of you come to visit the blog looking for a little pick-me-up...we'll today I am asking you to pick me up.
I was confronted with a little situation the other day -- where I was approached by someone with an usual situation, one that left me in awe at the moment but as time passes...I'm beginning to be unsure about how to address my own problems. So now I turn to you....my mediocre mom advice may appear at times to be helpful, but I am discovering that when it comes to advice on life in general...that is where I'm lacking.
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The other day I had a knock at my door where I welcomed in someone who asked to speak to me and my husband about some things that were weighing on their mind. They took a seat and over the next while proceeded to address issues that they had with me and my family. We responded to them the best we could on the spot, and at the end of the conversation, we were asked (in a non-offensive way) to leave them be...we shook hands and they left my home.
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I've laughed, I've cried and I've questioned....What do I do from here??
I know the details are vague -- but only because I still hold feelings for this family. I do love them, I wish my kindness wasn't perceived as acts of pity upon them. I wish my decisions (unknowingly) wouldn't have affected their family they way they did.
I've decided for now...the best thing for me to do is to just smile, pray for understanding (on my part) and for their family as well.
The world is a strange one at times.....isn't it?
If you have any advice or anything to help me understand how to handle such a situation...please share your thoughts....I would love to hear from you, you hear enough from me as it is.
Jen~ I'm not sure if this will come out right. I love you guys I have a hard time thinking that anyone would want you out of their lives, you make ours better by association. One of the things I always have to tell the hubs is that regardless of your intentions, what is percieved is what you have to deal with. I think that the wait and pray approach is probably best. If they asked you to do something then you should respect those wishes. If you feel good about it after some prayer maybe a letter expressing your regret at the their terminated friendship and your continued one. I hope that helps. Love ya!!
ReplyDeleteTake it with a grain of salt...and learn from it. And I'm calling you later.
ReplyDeleteI have been thinking about this all day. I have came to these thoughts...First, you are totally justified in your feelings being hurt and your heart being broken. It is hard when you try so hard to be just 'good' in the Lords eyes and do what is right for those around you that you love, and to have them do something like this, well frankly it would have been easier to have been sucker punshed in the stomach...but now you just get to have their words go around and around in your head, and your heart ache even more...
ReplyDeleteSo, my thoughts are this, keep loving them (maybe more inwardly) and pray for them, honestly earnestly pray that they may be able to find happiness and peace. And they may never ask..but try to forgive them to free yourself. And most of all keeping going and doing good and being the most amazing Daughter of God that you are. And this is my final thought to you is this beautiful piece of advice from Mother Teresa:
“Do it Anyway”
People are often unreasonable, illogical and self-centered;
Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives;
Be kind anyway.
If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true enemies;
Succeed anyway.
If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you;
Be honest and frank anyway.
What you spend years building, someone could destroy overnight;
Build anyway.
If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous;
Be happy anyway.
The good that you do today, people will often forget tomorrow;
Do good anyway.
Give the world the best you have and it may never be enough;
Give the world the best you have anyway.
You see in the final analysis it is between you and God;
It was never between you and them anyway.