Tuesday, November 29, 2011

Suffering from bad mom syndrome

There really is no way to escape it, once in while (sometimes more often than we like) we fall ill to the 'Bad Mom Syndrome'. No one is immune.
Its that moment when we feel low and the sense of failure and insecurity creep in. Our weaknesses consume our judgemental minds and our strengths diminish with each passing blow of criticism we cast upon ourselves.

 I recently read a heartbreaking blog post of a friend who lost her baby.

It is usually during times of great sorrow, misfortune and disappointment when we start to question who we are as mother. Are we doing a good enough job? Are we even worthy to care for these tender spirits we are entrusted with from heaven? Does Heavenly Father not trust us? Have we failed him? Have our limits been met or maybe we aren't capable and someone else could do better?

God doesn't punish us in this way -- if anything, he is just as heart broken watching us suffer, unable to see the bigger picture and only seeing the vision of earthly dreams escape us.

The dream of a family does not end here -- for Families are Eternal.

Before Gods children can enter in to immortality,there must be mortality...there isn't a set time limit or number of years that these beautiful children are required to be here. Heavenly Father has a plan for them....and you have provide a way for this spiritual being to accomplish what they couldn't on their own. To gain a body and return to the embrace of a loving Father in Heaven who can now set in motion their eternal progression.

I believe angels surround and the heavens open to pour out greater blessings upon those who have lost a child. For they are stronger than I am...and Heavenly Father knows them....and trusts them....and he knew they could handle these mortal life challenges best.

We shouldn't compare our situations to someone else's, because all we will see is their assumed greatness and our numerous exaggerated faults. The only person you can compare yourself, and your life to....is you. Ask yourself, "Am I better than I was yesterday? And am I doing all I can to strengthen, Me." Be a bit better than you were the day before and strive to improve your knowledge and testimony just a bit more than yesterday and you will find peace, joy and contentment in knowing you are becoming exactly what you long to be. 

Neal A Maxwell once said, "God loves us. I'm not sure we can always understand the implications of his love, because his love will call us at times to do things we may wonder about and we may be confronted with circumstances we would rather not face, he will set before us what we need, not always what we like. ....this will require us to accept with our hearts the truth that there is divine design in each of our lives."

You are not a bad mom....even though we live in a failing world, we have not been sent here to fail.

1 comment:

  1. I totally agree. I've felt like I'm neglecting my kids while trying to get our house packed and moved. Same while doing school work. But luckily they are wonderful kids and they know I love them.

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